Baby P is Here!!!!!
What a week this has been. It started off with a bang and it's been great ever since. Due to all the events that have occurred, I'm going to forgo my usual blog template and just dive into the story of how this week went down. When I left you last we were 39 weeks along with a baby the size of a watermelon. We had just went to our OB appointment on Monday, found out I was 4-5cm dilated, and had decided to set an induction date so that Adam would have plenty of bonding time and they would have time to file legal paperwork before Adam had to leave. At the same time, I started to freak out about having an induction instead of going naturally, so I was contemplating my last resort to try and get labor started. Yep, I went to the store and bought castor oil just in case I got desperate enough to get this party started.
And so that brings us to Tuesday. I woke up hoping to be in labor. A twinge, a cramp, anything... nothing. Oh well. I knew I couldn't stay pregnant forever. But I was stressed. I didn't realize how much differently a surrogacy pregnancy would feel. You not only have to think about your feelings, fears, and excitement, but you also have those of the parents. Normally I would anxiously await to go into labor, but as a whole not stress about the big day, knowing that it would eventually come. It was just a matter of time. This time however, we had a deadline. The dad, Adam, was going to need to fly home to take care of a family emergency on our due date (5 days from now). I was stressed. Of course the mother would still be here, but I really wanted them both to be here for the birth of their child. That being said, we had requested just the day before at our OB appointment to schedule an induction as soon as possible. This would allow the father to be there, and enough bonding time before leaving. Luckily I was already 4-5 cm dilated with a very soft cervix, so my body was a prime candidate for induction. So this morning I called the OB's office to get an update on the induction. Did we have a date set? Yes! We did. It would be the morning of the 9th at 6am. Eeeeeek! So soon!!!!! Excited, but stressed. Oh so stressed...
|Love those baby cheeks! Heading out to find mommy and daddy.|
|Waiting to deliver the placenta.|
So I made a decision. I was going to try castor oil to get this labor started before the induction. It actually didn't taste bad at all. I made a little smoothie out of it with orange juice, yogurt, and berries; and at 2pm I drank it down. Yum! Let's hope it works. Well, it did work... in the evacuation sense, but I didn't feel anything that would tell me that labor was coming. Boo! At least I tried. At 4:30 I informed the doula that it was not going to work and to just proceed with our induction plans. She had a few meetings planned for that evening, and I didn't want her to worry about me going into labor. Brian, the kids, and I all got ready for our dinner date with Belle & Adam, and then headed out. But then things started to change...
|Mommy & Daddy admiring their little girl.|
|All fresh & dressed up for the day|
I called out to my husband to help me out and let him know my water had just broken. Of course he freaked out and instantly wanted to call an ambulance. "No", I told him. We can do this. We just need to get to the hospital which was only 5 minutes down the road. At this point contractions had come on strong and I didn't know how I would do this, but I worked with my breathing and kept telling myself we could do this. I just needed to breathe. At first I tried to use one of my son's diapers to hold the fluid in, but as soon as I stood up it was soaked like I wasn't wearing it at all. Then my girls brought me a beach towel. They were very excited that I was in labor. That is until I had my first contraction in front of them. My oldest daughter who was keeping me company freaked out and ran to the bathroom that my husband was in telling him he needed to get out here right now. Haha! I think I scared her a bit. But I assured her everything was ok. My husband loaded up the car, I jumped in (in between contractions), and we sped off to the hospital. I still hadn't started timing contractions, but I would say they were about 1-2 min apart at this point and very strong.
|Yummm!!! So hungry!!!|
My doula did make it after the baby was born. I was sad that we didn't get to have the labor that we had planned together, but so happy that she was there for me afterwards. Because the doctor was not there yet, I had to hold the placenta in for a half hour till she got there. I wasn't having contractions, but there was a lot of pressure, so the guidance of my doula really helped me to breathe through the pressure. Finally the doctor arrived and we got all set up, birthed the placenta around 8:45, checked me for tears which I had none, and we were done! Completely natural without so much as an IV or line put in my arm... just the way I wanted it. My doula was great and massaged my back to ease the after pains, while my husband took some photos of the happy new parents and then my doula took some photos too. She was also able to help Belle and Baby P get started with breastfeeding. It was perfect! After about an hour, the happy new family moved onto the nursery to continue bonding, while I got started on healing and resting in my room. It was quite a different experience not having a baby to take care of, but I think I rather liked all the rest and relaxation that I got.
|Fresno Surrogate Recovery Room Party|
The first hours were a bit uncomfortable though. The hospital was completely packed with women giving birth, so there were no rooms open for me to move on to recovery. That meant I got to stay in labor and delivery. Nice big rooms, but the beds aren't the best for an overnight stay. That being said, it was a bit of a rocky night with an hour of sleep here and there. My uterus hurt, my back hurt, and my pelvic bone hurt (same pain from before the birth). But as the night wore on it seemed to get better and better and by 4am I was knocked out in a pretty good sleep. Ahhhhhh! Oh sweet sleep. The next morning I was able to take a shower, put makeup on, and blow dry my hair all nice and curly. Wow! That was a first in all births. Normally I'm so tired and out of it that I just wait till I get home... or a week after that even. Haha! I will say that I flooded out the whole bathroom taking my shower though. Hmmmm... someone needs to talk to the architect about that one. I even got to put on that super cute hospital gown I got from Birth Day Suit Maternity. I may not have been able to wear it for the birth, but at least I looked great for the day after! Belle and Adam came to visit me in my room a few times that day. They even brought me a cute little hospital goodie bag full of yummy treats, champagne, and relaxing body products. Thanks Belle & Adam! My family and in-laws also came to visit me, as well as another friend, and a group of surrogates that were so sweet to come by and say hi. My stay wasn't long though. The hospital needed the bed, so I was released a good 5 hours early. Yay! Time to relax at home.
Being home has been so nice. The first few days were a bit achy, but relaxing on my couch and bed was so much better than in a hospital. I've been enjoying all the well wishes from friends and family, and even got flowers from Brian's boss and from Circle Surrogacy. Belle, Adam, & Baby P on the other hand, had to stay one more night. Poor them. They didn't get a room, so they had to stay in the nursery. Unfortunately there is no sleeping or eating in the nursery so needless to say, I'm sure they were VERY tired by the time they got to leave, and probably a bit hungry too. I don't think they left Baby P's side very often. Finally Thursday evening they too got to head home... or rather back to the hotel. Oh sweet bed! I'm sure they crashed pretty darn fast... before Baby P woke them up again. Haha! And so it begins.
On Saturday Brian, the kids, and I all went to visit the happy new family at their hotel. Of course we came bearing food and couldn't wait to see how they were all doing. Besides being extremely sleep deprived (aren't all new parents), it looked like they were doing great. The whole room was set up like a home away from home, and Baby P was sleeping so soundly the whole time we were there. Such a cutie!!!!! We even got some great group pictures before heading out to let the new family rest some more. I wish I could post them here for you all to see, but for now, I know that I'll hold them in my heart forever.
|Visiting Belle, Adam, & Baby P|
Sunday I made another stop by to see Belle, Adam, & Baby P with my mother in-law. I must have been totally not paying attention when they talked about this week, because I didn't realize that it would be the last day I would see them. Today they're heading out to San Francisco to finalize some legal work and hop on their flights. Is it really over? Has this journey really come and gone? Oddly enough I'm not a sobbing mess like I thought I would be, but I'm sure when the hormones start kicking in, the realization that it's over will kick in. I know it's not goodbye forever though. They've already planned a trip back to California next February to visit us in Fresno, and then make a trip to Disneyland. Oddly enough, we'd already planned a trip to Disneyland around the same time. So funny! I'm sure time will fly by and well see them once again, but till then... It's been a perfect ending with a perfect little family. Congrats Belle, Adam, and Baby P!!!!! I love you all!!!!
I was going to post my belly progression on this post, but YouTube isn't liking my music selection. I still need to wait for them to approve my using a song that I did not create. Believe me, you don't want me to sing the song for you. I guarantee that it won't sound as pretty. Haha! I'll post it soon.
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*Some of the names in this post have been changed and faces blocked out to protect the identities of those involved in this journey*